Losing It: A taboo-busting guide to sex and relationships that debunks the myths you were taught at school.

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If you feel this doesn’t apply to you, that is hopefully because you grew up in an environment where you were exposed to healthy ideas around masculinity. Emphasis on pregnancy, and male pleasure with a lack of information or conversation around consent or female pleasure.

It seems that everywhere you look, brands and influencers are telling women and men that we are finally free to have sex on our own terms. Imagine my shock when I read that a Woman in one of these Gulf States, committed suicide after she had sex for the first time with her husband, but she didn't bleed, so he disputed her virginal status, and she killed herself. All the older respondents cared less about aesthetics than younger ones, so while looks aren’t everything for women, there remain many factors that influence a power dynamic – such as an older age, higher intelligence or financial stability – that would thwart younger, financially unstable male suitors. Even our euphemisms in English for virginity loss – deflowering, popping or busting a cherry – denotes fruit or a flower that is ripe for the taking, and consumed without trace. Acts like a scientific self help book but doesnt really have references and also isnt really doing anything to help anyone.

All that ambition and awareness dissolved in front of this woman’s formidable command of the room, because no husband was going to love us if we were special-glueless. You can change your choices at any time by visiting Cookie preferences, as described in the Cookie notice. But what she didn't know was that this lack of knowledge was about to turn her life upside down - as it does to countless people in the UK every year. As well as Losing It, Sophia has an impressive string of achievements under her belt, including reaching over 400,000 followers on TikTok and being selected for the Forbes 30 under 30 list for 2022.

I’m reading Dipo Faloyin’s Africa Is Not A Country and Farah Nayeri’s Takedown: Art and Power in the Digital Age. We don’t share your credit card details with third-party sellers, and we don’t sell your information to others. In Urdu, the verb for to lose that they use is not gomana, like if you lose a pencil; it is kohna, used if you lose something in an abyss or lose direction in life. Payments made using National Book Tokens are processed by National Book Tokens Ltd, and you can read their Terms and Conditions here. Tales about online virginity auctions have featured in the British tabloid media for decades now; even suspect auction sites alleging to sell women’s virginities for millions claim column inches in media outlets such as the Daily Mail, who not only fail to do due diligence on them, but also fetishise the ‘proven’ virginities of such women, who have somehow obtained certificates from medical professionals.In Talmudic literature, virgins are entitled to increased alimony in the event of a divorce, which is double that of a widow’s; no similar privilege exists for male virgins. When the requests started coming through, she had to ignore the vast majority because they didn’t want to wear a condom. Take orthodox Christianity, for example, in which sex is only acceptable within marriage and for the purpose of procreation. A survey published in 2021 showed that a high proportion of British women and men are completely incapable of labelling all the parts of the vulva. We are constantly expanding our range of books, social stationery and calendars, with all the leading publishers and suppliers.

The author skillfully interweaves her own stories with the stories of people they interviewed in the broader context of patriarchal and capitalist power. One of those countries is Indonesia, where 97 per cent of the population disapproves of it, and where the army has just announced that it has bowed to pressure from human rights groups to change its rules so that female soldiers no longer have to take virginity tests to join the army. We also share information about your use of our site with our social media, advertising and analytics partners.Definitely don't listen to one bad review which quite frankly seems to have an agenda on one very small part of a well structured and incredibly informative text. Why then - in the age of the internet and gender equality - do myths around sex and virginity persist? Remembering my school days of terrible sex education of bananas, condoms and only one teacher who was confident enough to really teach the subject at my school I realised just how much a book like this is needed and how much even though I have taught myself alot, how much I didn't know or didn't really think about enough - Sophie talks you through all this like you are in this together throughout and I really appreciate it. Losing It: Sex Education for the 21st Century takes a look at a world where sex education is underprioritised and underfunded, and how that vacuum of knowledge leaves us vulnerable to a sex misinformation crisis.

The book hits a lot of topics that are important and myths that are still deeply imbedded in our society. That being said, along with other texts/resources I do think that this would provide a really solid introduction to sex ed for young people! Thank you NetGalley, Sophie Smith Galer and William Collins for an Arc copy in exchange for an honest review. After that he disappeared, but I want to find another man, one true to his word, to do the same thing: pics and talking in exchange of money.Still, on the other hand, it is often challenging to find unbiased and reliable information because of algorithms and how they feed on extreme emotions and shock. These cookies help provide information on metrics the number of visitors, bounce rate, traffic source, etc. Smith Galer, a senior news reporter at VICE World News with a 388K-strong following on TikTok, allows readers to reflect on the real-life impact these myths have on us as individuals. Over half couldn't correctly identify that women have three holes and, regardless of their gender, half of Britons couldn't identify the urethra and 37 per cent mislabelled the clitoris.